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Foundations

In a healthy and vibrant sexual relationship, the seduction is mutual and never ends.  But what is seduction, actually?  Read The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene to find out.

Mindfulness of the body and control over the attention is key to sexual pleasure.  Read The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand to learn more about being present to and sustaining pleasure.

For a list of erotica, you can visit www.DrSara.com/erotica

How-To Books

She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner

Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man by Ian Kerner

 

Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self Pleasure by Sadie Allison

Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison

 

Therapeutic Toys for Men

Silicone “sleeve” (also known as “pocket pussy” in the vernacular) for use in sensitizing to a more natural environment

C-rings for erection maintenance

Promescent is a numbing lube that should only be used at the end of a course of treatment for PE and before attempting to transfer learning to partnered sexual activity.

 

Therapeutic Toys for Women

Lelo, the Ferrari of vibrators–silent, chargeable, soft, and multispeed

Pink flower vibrator bullet and finger sleeve

Minna K-goal pelvic floor biofeedback exerciser system with free app.

Graduated weights for pelvic floor resistance exercises.

Preferred silicone dialators sold individually or as a graduated set from Soul Source.

Every kind of lube you could ask for from MiddlesexMD.

Handouts

The Basson Model of Female Sexuality

Bioavailable testosterone calculator

 

Apps

         The capacity to get good sleep is foundational to mental health and physical wellbeing.  Certain patterns of sleep can lead not only to depression and anxiety but also to a sluggish metabolism and eventually to diabetes and heart disease. In order to address sleep issues in therapy, it is good to have good data and in order to get that, Dr. Sara recommends getting the Sleep Cycle app.
         The ability to get to and sustain a calm state of mind is essential to mental health, emotion regulation, and good sex.  So, learning to meditate is an important part of most of DrSara’s treatment.  But most people only meditate sporadically and the most frequently cited reason is that they don’t really know if they’re doing it “right.” With the Muse headband reading your brain waves and giving you immediate feedback, your ability to achieve effective results is greatly improved.  And, because the Muse is so much fun to use, people want to do it.  If you download the Muse app you can use it without a headband for free, and DrSara can track how often you actually practice. Or you can use this link to buy your own Muse headband and get a 15% discount.  With the headband, DrSara not only can see how often you practice, but also, how effective you are at getting into a true meditative state.  Depending on how quickly you want to get results, a Muse headband can be a very wise investment.

Homework Exercises

Exercises 1 and 2: The vicious cycle of unsatisfying sex

Exercise 3:  Exploring sensuality

Exercise 4: Sexological Exercise

Exercise 5: Watching

Exercise 6: Sexual Touching